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5 of The Best Places to Meet Single Men and Women

There are so many single people in the world, but where are they all? Why are so many of us single when we don’t want to be? Maybe we are looking in the wrong places? Here are 5 of the best places to meet single men and women.

1. Online
By far the easiest place to meet people is online. All you have to do is send a message and start a conversation. You can search for exactly what type of partner you want and chat with people you never thought you’d get to or even be interested in. The possibilities are endless.

Pros – Lots of people to choose from, can be specific, can chat before meeting
Cons – Might not be the person they say they are, sometimes there is mental attraction but no physical attraction

2. Gym
Lots of single people go to the gym. If you are interested in health and fitness maybe joining a gym will be worth it for you. If you already are part of a gym, great! Going on a regular basis is not only good for your health but gives you a better chance of meeting singles.

There are lots of men and women on the gym floor and you can meet people there or just make eye contact and smile. The sauna is another great place because lots of people go in and out and you can have a good conversation with some friendly and usually attractive people. If you are looking to meet women, taking a yoga or group workout class is a great option since most classes have a higher women to men ratio.

Pros You know they care about their health, get to see them in tight or minimal clothing
Cons
– Many people are wearing headphones, minimal opportunities for conversation

3. Meet up groups
Another great way to make friends and find people to date is meet up groups. Meet up is an App you can download and event organizers set up events that you can join, and many are free!

When you go to a meet up event there can be any number of people so you will most likely meet a bunch of different people. Some of the best events for getting to know people are hikes, dinners, drinks, board game nights, club hopping or any event that gives you an opportunity to talk with other people while doing something that you thing sounds fun.

ProsEven if you don’t meet anyone you’ll probably still have fun, if you do meet someone you basically get to experience a low pressure first date with them
Cons
– If the attraction isn’t mutual the event can become awkward, if you date them and things don’t out future events with them can be awkward

4. Interest Groups
This includes church groups, book clubs, writing group, art clubs, etc, the key word is group or club. The idea is it’s something that you do a on a regular basis with mostly the same people each time. Ideally new people of your preferred gender will have the possibility of coming into the group or you might make friends with someone who can introduce you to someone that would be good for you.

Pros – You already have a similar interest, you have the chance to get to know each other over a period of time
ConsSome groups/clubs are limited in who joins or may be geared towards the gender you’re not interested in, the person you have you’re eye on might be taken and it might take a while for you to find out

5. Grocery Store
This is surprisingly a good place to meet both men and women. It usually happens to me when I’m shopping alone and usually after work or the gym so I’m not looking my best but the time is in the evening.

It seems the key is to smile and hopefully they will start a conversation (or maybe you will?) and it will go well. There is a good chance you’ll walk away and continue on you’re shopping and then you may run into them again. It can be good, awkward, or maybe even a second chance depending on how each of you felt about the first interaction but be prepared lol.

Pros – There are plenty of things to say and questions to ask about the food or cooking to start a conversation, you get to see what’s in their cart
Cons If you aren’t interested then you might bump into them again, and again, and again.

 

What other places do you think are the best to meet single people?

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How To Tell if a Situation is Out of Your Control

 

 

Everyone goes through times when something happens that is out of their control. Many things that happen in life and there is nothing we can do about it sometimes. Sometimes yes, there is definitely something we can do and we should do. But other times it’s the complete opposite and it’s best to let it go and move on.

 
The easier it is to identify which situations can be influenced and which are completely out of your hands the less you will stress about situations you shouldn’t. There are a lot of things that happen all the time like bad weather, job loss, rude people or even death that we really have no control over and it’s a waste of time and energy for us to think that we do. The sooner you identify the situations you can and can’t control the easier it will be for you to let it go and move on.

 
How do you know when something is out of your control? Look for these 5 signs.

 

 

1. The main person involved isn’t you
Situations involving other people are usually out of your control because the only person you have any say over is you. Sure, you have your kids and you do have a certain amount of control over their lives, but at the end of the day, they are still their own person and make their own choices.

 
If someone you love is going though a tough time the only thing you can really do is be there for them if they need you. Giving them unwanted advice or butting into their lives usually doesn’t make things much better.

 
If you are forced to be around someone you hate, you can try your best to avoid them, but you will probably have to deal with them eventually and you’ll need to be prepared for when you do.

 
Realize the only thing you have any say over is you and your reaction to the situation.

 

 

2. You feel like you’ve done everything
If you have tried everything that you can think of to change the situation but nothing works, maybe it’s time to stop. Maybe you have to accept that it’s out of your control and just go with it. Sometimes you try and try and try but there comes a point where sometimes you are trying to do something that just isn’t meant to happen.

 
Don’t waste your time trying the same things over and over again. Maybe try a couple more approaches until you feel you’ve tried everything, and then let it go. You gave it you’re best effort and that’s all you can do.

 

 

3. You feel there is nothing you can do
Maybe instead of feeling that you’ve done it all, you feel like there is nothing you can do. Sometimes this is absolutely true. If there is a major change at work or you get laid off, there really isn’t anything you can do about it. You can try to fight it, but sometimes there is no point and it’s better to just accept it.

 
You are allowed to be angry or upset for a little while, but make sure you don’t let your negative feelings get the best of you. If there is nothing you can do about it, just accept the situation as soon as you can and move on. There is probably something way better out there for you anyway or maybe there is something you can learn from the situation. Try to find the positive.

 

 

4. You worry constantly
When tend to worry more when things happen that we can’t control. When we have control over the situation, we can do something to make it better and then we can’t stop worrying as much. When we don’t have as much control, we tend to overthink the possibilities and what could happen and sometimes we drive ourselves a little crazy doing it.

 
If you find yourself constantly thinking and worrying about a particular situation, it’s probably because you feel you lack a sense of control over it. If there is something you feel you can do or should do that would help you stop worrying, maybe it’s a good idea to do it so that feeling doesn’t turn into guilt later on. If there isn’t anything that you feel you should do then maybe what you need to do is let it go and just be prepared for what may come. There’ s no point in worrying when there isn’t anything you can do about it.

 

 

5. You just know
Sometimes you just know that the situation is out of your hands. The better you know yourself the easier it will be to tell if a situation is within your control or not. There are a lot of things in life, in fact some argue most things, that we have no or limited control over. The only thing we have control over if ourselves. The better we know ourselves the easier it will be to identify how we can influence a situation and maybe change it a bit.

 
If you and your spouse have been fighting then you can look at yourself and see what you can do differently like being nicer or being more aware of their feelings. But sometimes, no matter what you do, your spouse is still going to do the things that bother you or you will do things that bother them and there isn’t anything you can do to change each other. Sure you can get a new spouse, but is that worth it? Maybe you should just accept that they are the way they are and deal with it. Only you know the answer to that.

Letting Go of an Unhealthy Relationship

 

I did it again. I fell in love with the potential and not the person. I thought of all that could have been, how great things could be, and not how crappy they actually were. Sure, there were good moments but I allowed myself to be strung along and then one day, just like that, it’s all over.

I did something for my own good that is killing me on the inside. I told him “Please stop contacting me.” And the thing is, I know he will listen. That means, this time, I will not get a text two months later saying “I miss you” or even a simple “Hi”. Previous times I knew he’d always come back. This time, he’s not coming back.

It kills me. We were so close! We were doing so good. Things were going well, we talked about our feelings and we both liked each other. So either it was all a bunch of lies and I’m just stupid, or maybe it really was bad timing or just not the right match.

And the way it ended sucks too. I feel like I didn’t say the right things. I wanted to say more but what more was there to really say? “You hurt me and you’re an asshole, I can’t believe you could do this to me!” and to which he would reply “I’m sorry you feel that way” or something lame like that. He wouldn’t even really care, he’s more interested in his own feelings which is why it wasn’t working out in the first place.

I knew he was unhealthy for me but I just kept going back for more and kept letting myself get pulled in more and more. I just needed to have some fun, was my excuse. Deep down I hoped I’d be the one; the one that tamed him, the one that he settled down and had a family with. The one that he finally fell deeply in love with. I wanted him to pick me.

I wish I had just say “Bye” instead of “Please stop contacting me.” It was out of pain that I said that. But it’s really over right? He didn’t pick me… sometimes I think I would like to still be friends with him although I’ve never been friends with an ex before. The things is….. we are not just friends and feelings like that don’t just go away. And what about when I do get married to someone else, will I still want my friend around?

I guess on the flip side, I could always contact him if I wanted to. I don’t know why or what I’d say. I guess I could be the one to say “I miss you” or “Hi”. But what would be the point? I guess I still am holding on to the hope that maybe he is the one and it was just not the right time… but they say timing is everything right?

Plus he had his chance. I put myself out there. I made an effort. And maybe I over reacted. Maybe I was too dramatic. Or maybe I knew I needed to stop lowering my standards and letting myself feel like crap over a man who didn’t treat me the way I deserve. Maybe I knew that I wasn’t going to get my needs met by him and it was time I let go.

It sucks, it really does. I feel better that I did learn a little from this relationship. I learned how to better communicate my feelings and I learned that actions speak a lot louder than words.

I figure if it’s meant to be somehow our paths will cross again. Or maybe I’ll cave and text him. Or maybe I’ll meet a really great new man who actually treats me the way I deserve and can give me the things I need. Only time will tell.

 

10 Ways To Get Your Money Right

Being financially healthy is just as important as your physical and mental health. It can cause major stress if you are constantly worried about money. Or, if you can’t afford to buy things you need like food or medicine, that can also cause health issues.

Many people struggle each month trying to pay bills and buy things that they need. Saving money can seem like wishful thinking when your living paycheck to paycheck.

However, it’s actually easier than you think with just a few simple changes.

Here are 10 ways to get your money right.

1. Make a budget and stick to it.
Each month add up all your bills and subtract that from all your income and see how much you have left over. This is your money to do with what you please, sorta.

Then you have to consider all your expenses. This is where your budget comes in. Figure out how much money you actually need to spend each week on necessary things like groceries, gas, household items and fun. Decide how much you want to save. Each budget is different, but even saving just $5 is better than nothing.

If you can’t put away any money or you come up negative on your budget, then you need to look at increasing your income and decreasing your expenses. Maybe you can get a second job or maybe you don’t really need cable?

The catch about a budget is, once your spending money is gone, it’s gone. So if you spend all of your fun money in one weekend, then you can’t dip into your savings or use a credit card when you want to go out again. If you spend all your food money on fast food on your lunch breaks, then you’re going to have to eat something from home the rest of the week.

It’s tough, but once you’ve made your budget stick to it. If you end up using credit cards or taking out a loan that eventually will cost you way more than you realize. Keep your savings account where it belongs and your emergency fund for emergencies. And if you don’t have those things then you should make a budget and think about if it’s more important to you to splurge on things now, or save for the future.

2. Plan your meals
This may seem more like a diet tip, but one of the biggest places that people spend money without realizing it is on food. If you go out to eat on your lunch break 5 days a week and spend $7 each day, that’s $35 on lunch. And what about those coffees on the way to work? And when you grabbed dinner with a friend? You can spend your entire weekly budget on food alone if your not careful!

If you plan you meals then your less likely to spend more money than you’d like on food. When you go to the grocery store make sure to know what your plan is you so can buy food for the week. Try buying things like coffee and easy breakfast like bagels and cream cheese, granola bars or instant sandwiches if your need something quick in the morning and then to stop by Starbucks. If lunch at work is your issue, pack a lunch the night before or buy easy to grab meals like ready made salads. Doing just those two things can save you hundreds of dollars.

3. Stop impulse buys
Have you ever been in line at the grocery store and it was taking so long… it’s been such a long day. You’re tired and thirsty. Then, you see there are drinks on sale for a dollar! You might as well grab a couple of them. One for now and one for later. And look, candy bars on sale 2/$1.00! I had a long day so I deserve some chocolate and I gotta get two so I can get the sale.

Hmmm, it may feel like you got a good deal, but in reality you just spent an extra $3 on junk you didn’t need. If you do this multiple times it all adds up. And sometimes the items aren’t so little…

4. Don’t buy things because they are on sale.
Sometimes when you’re out shopping you’ll see a cute shirt and it’s 50% off! Wow, what a deal, right? Many stores put items on 50% off sale every weekend. Or maybe you’re at the grocery store and you see chips on sale if you buy 3 bags, so instead of just buying 1 bag like you intended, you buy 3 and end up spending more overall. But you got a good deal, right?

Sales can be good, but when you see something you don’t really need and justify buying it because it’s on sale, that can be a problem. Beware of buy 1 get one half off deals, or buy more get more off sales. They are trying to get you to buy more of something you don’t really need to get a good price and yes you do get a good deal, but you ultimately spend more. There is a right way to buy things on sale.

Especially if you feel yourself buying the item because it’s on sale, then that’s a sign that you probably don’t really need it and shouldn’t buy it.

5. Do stock up on core items when they go on sale
Sales can be a good thing. When items like toilet paper, soap, paper towels, and other core household items that you’re going to buy again and again anyway go on sale yes, that is a good time to buy them in multiples. Buy as much toilet paper that will fit in your cabinet when it goes on sale. Things like that you will use and you actually save more money when you spend $5 on a big pack verses buying $1 packs with only four small rolls again and again.

Also try buying in bulk. Things like dish soap and some household cleaners can be bought in a large container and refilled. Or buy a value packs, especially if they go on sale. Even things like shampoo and conditioner can be bought in a multi-pack and can be cost effective.

Just beware of perishable items like some food and cleaners. Even if an item will last for a year, if you buy in bulk you might not use it all within a year.

6. Save some money every month, no matter what
It may feel like you can’t save anything but you’ll regret it if you don’t. Even just $5 a week will make you feel good when you look at your saving account and see that you have $100 in there.

Plus you need a safety net. What will you do if you lose your job? What if you can’t work for a few months? What if your car needs repairs? There are so many what ifs… and it’s good to be prepared.

And also think about retirement. Do you want to have to keep working forever? The more money you save now the sooner you can retire and the less likely you are to have to work during your retirement. Yeah, it seems like a really long time away, but if you saved up one million dollars, you could possibly retire at that moment, even if you were only 45. It would just depend on your living expenses and how long you could make the money last.

No matter what motivates you to save money, make sure you do it. You will be glad you did.

7. Open a credit union account
Banks are great but credit unions tend to be better. They typically charge less fees and try to give back more to their customers. They tend to have lower interest rates and help you to get loans or financing. Banks can do all this too, but they also are in it to make a profit. It just depends on which company you choose.

It’s also a good idea to have accounts at more than more place. You can have a checking and savings account at your bank and maybe just a savings account with your credit union. You can even have some money direct deposited into both accounts depending on if your job offers that. It’s also good to have multiple accounts in different places just in case something happens to one of them you’ll have a backup and all of your money won’t be tied up in one place.

8. Pay off your credit cards
One of the best ways to have more money is to pay off your credit cards. Once you do that, your monthly payment is gone and that is one less bill to pay.

If might not seem like your credit card bills are bad, but even if your payment is only $25, that’s $25 every single month that you have to pay. And if you’re only paying the minimum your basically just paying for the interest which means you’ll be paying it for a very long time. If you pay it all off then you don’t have to worry about it anymore and can just save it for emergencies or close the account.

Yes it can seem daunting to pay off your credit cards, but take it one at a time. Start with a small one and just try to make more than the minimum payment and don’t use it. Then when the payment get a little smaller, you might be able to pay it off in one big chunk and then that’s one less bill to pay.

Paying off credit cards will feel freeing and will help your credit score increase. Getting deep into credit card debt can be a very stressful place so take little steps in the right direction now.

9. Make smart choices
One way many people are losing money and not really realizing it is by not making cost effective choices. Sometimes it’s better to buy quality over quantity. Many times buying the store brand is better than buying the name brand. Before making a purchase, do some research on the item and different places that sell it so you can get a good deal and one that is right for you.

Also make sure that you don’t buy into money sucking scams or paying for something that you can get for free or much cheaper. Sure, you can pay for an online book selection through a website, or you can just sign up with your local library and use theirs for free. You can pay someone to tell you how to lose weight, or you can just google it. Why keep buying plastic bottle water when you can buy a water filter or a filtered water bottle for a fraction of the price?

There are so many ways to save money if you just stop and think about it and make sure it’s a smart decision.

10. Decide what really matters to you
Getting your money right is tough and you’re going to have to committed to doing it or it’s not going to work. Having a reason for saving money and not spending money on things you don’t need will definitely make it easier to do so.

If you want to take a vacation, then start saving now so you can spend all that you want when you are on your trip. If you want to buy a house, start saving now so you can buy the house of your dreams when you’re ready. Just want to pay off your credit cards? Start paying a little bit extra to them and think about how nice it will be when they are paid off. Or maybe you just want to be able to go out with your friends one a regular basis and have enough money to treat them once in a while.

Whatever it is for you, whatever reason you want to get your money right, think about it and use it to keep yourself going when your sitting there deciding whether or not to use your credit cards or if you should break into your savings account. Because it’s going to happen and you need to be prepared so make sure you know what really matters to you.